A formula for managing emotions can look like this. <\/p>\n
S + T = RA
\nSituation + Thoughts about the situation = Reaction\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\nS \u2013 T = RS
\nSituation \u2013 Any thoughts especially judgments about the situation = Response\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\nS = situation, action, comments
\nT = thoughts, judgments, scenarios<\/p>\nOne of the best ways to free yourself from reacting with emotions is by becoming aware of your thoughts. Thoughts are always there and they create all kinds of emotions. I find that just dropping all my judgments about the situation calms me. <\/p>\n
When I react to a situation, it means I\u2019m not in control. When I respond to a situation, it means I\u2019m in control. <\/p>\n
Here’s an example of how it works.
\nS + T = RA
\nThe situation is: The light just turns red when I\u2019m driving.
\nMy thoughts about the red light could be: \u201coh no, I\u2019m going to be late; this light is so long; when’s it going to turn green?\u201d These thoughts make me impatient and tense.
\nMy reaction is to get all worked up over something of which I have no control.<\/p>\nS – T = RS
\nThe situation is the same: The light just turns red when I\u2019m driving.
\nWhen I let go of these thoughts about the red light, I have just the red light. I am calm because I accept the reality that the light is red, that\u2019s all there is to this situation.
\nMy response is to calmly wait for the light to turn green.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"A formula for managing emotions can look like this. S + T = RA Situation + Thoughts about the situation = Reaction S \u2013 T = RS Situation \u2013 Any thoughts especially judgments about the situation = Response S = … Continue reading