Happiness is your responsibility. It is not the responsibility of your partner, your children, your parents, or your friends, just like you are not responsible for their happiness. Don’t expect them to rescue you from your misery or pain. And don’t rescue them from their misery and pain. You can be kind, supportive and loving, but that’s not the same as trying to make them happy or blaming them for your misery. Just like when they catch a cold, you can make them chicken soup, but you can’t take away their cold.
Emotions and issues are the same as a cold. It’s your own job to take care of your emotions and work through your issues, and their job to work through whatever emotions and issues they have. You are then taking responsibility for yourself as well as giving your loved ones the confidence that they are strong and smart enough to take care of themselves.